We are 6 weeks into 2015 and I have not met any of my New Years resolutions. Dang. But honestly, why do we think that when the clock strikes midnight and it is January 1st that everything in out lives are going to change? Change takes time. It takes so much time. So, 6 weeks into 2015, I am going to change the way that I look at change.
I get so discouraged when I tell myself that I have to do _____ in _____ amount of time and I fail. I felt like a failure when I didn’t loose the weight that I was “supposed to” loose in January. I felt like a failure when I wasn’t able to run a 5k within the first 4 weeks of working out. I did fail. No, I didn’t fail because I didn’t reach these unrealistic goals that I told myself I absolutely had to do. I failed because I wasn’t kind to myself. I was spending so much time and energy trying to change the physical part of who I am. I totally neglected my spiritual and social/emotional health. No wonder I “failed.”
So, I am making a choice. Instead of dictating every part of my life, I am going to fix my life on one goal. This means that my physical, spiritual and social/emotional well being are all in tuned to the same thing – Christ.
Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it. Because he never lost sight of where he was headed—that exhilarating finish in and with God—he could put up with anything along the way: Cross, shame, whatever. And now he’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside God. When you find yourselves flagging in your faith, go over that story again, item by item, that long litany of hostility he plowed through. That will shoot adrenaline into your souls! (Heb. 12:1-3)
As I began reading this passage more and more, the Lord put a very specific word in my heart. Balance. I have been so out of balance. I have been spending so much of my time obsessing over my physical well-being and completely neglecting my spiritual and social/emotional well-being. There was no balance in my life and I have decided that in 2015, I will be seeking balance in all that I do.
Let’s find balance in this life. Let’s strengthen our physical, social/emotional and spiritual lives. Let’s strengthen these areas of life without being consumed by perfection. Let’s not focus on one area while leaving the other areas of life empty. Let’s be honest throughout this journey of balance. Give yourself grace throughout this journey. Have patience and do not put a timeline on change. Be proactive and driven to be your best self. Most of all – do all of these things because you love yourself enough to take care of yourself
For me, the most productive way to reach goals is to make lists. So, here is my list of ways that I am striving for balance.
- Feed myself things that are beneficial for my body.
- Sweat 4 days a week.
- Remind myself daily that I have a body worth loving and tending to.
- I am not a body that has a soul. I am a soul that has a body.
- Do things that I enjoy when exercising.
- Exercising is a reward for taking care of my body and not a punishment for neglecting my body.
- Meet with my mentor once every week.
- Talk to (Call, FaceTime, text) 1 friend from home each week.
- Spend 1 day off each month with one of my roommates.
- Meet with the girls I am mentoring once a week.
- Write 1 letter per week.
- Read and complete a chapter of “30 days” per week.
- Read over my goals each morning.
- Do not get out of bed until I have prayed.
- Do not fall asleep before praying.
- Each day, ask 1 roommate for how I can be praying for them.
- Create a “pray for” list.
I have found so much joy in the word ‘balance’. I am motivated to become my best self and am saying goodbye to New Years resolutions. We are going to fail daily and that is okay! There is grace. I am waking up every morning and take care of all aspects of myself. Without this, we have no ability to take care and love others. So, heres to 2015 and a year full of balance!